How To Be Your Best Self On Your Worst Days©
Discover The Cube-Method to Help You: Stay Connected, Honest and Compassionate
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Simple tools and 4 steps to help you stay connected to your best self on your worst days.
The message of the Choice-Cube Method is a simple one. Stay present and aware, connected to yourself with honesty and compassion. You will discover how to be your best self on your worst days.
Not one of us goes through life without some suffering. Also, at times we all lose touch with the best of who we are. What makes a difference is knowing how to reconnect to ourselves and others, responding to our problems, disappointments, and losses from the best of who we are.
In difficult or confusing times, using the 4 steps and simple tools in this book, Become the Person You Were Meant to Be can help you do just that!
Staying connected to yourself—in touch with what you honestly and compassionately think, feel, want, and do—will help you train your brain and condition your body to find and to be your best self, even on your worst days.
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“The Choice-Cube Method - learning to understand how my body, emotions, thoughts and will can work together for good or to keep me stuck - has changed my entire worldview and affected how I interact with others for the better.”
Learn more about the Choice-Cube Method and its impact on your life.
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Problem-Solving
- Jun 28, 2020 Are We Hard-Wired For Goodness?
- Jun 15, 2013 "Making It Safe:" A Choice-Cube Tool
- Sep 24, 2012 Victims! Victimizers! What About Problem Solvers?
- Oct 16, 2011 "I Refuse To Be A Victim!” - Herman Cain
- Jul 21, 2011 Tips To Get You Out Of Feeling Stuck
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Victim-Victimizer
- Jun 28, 2020 Are We Hard-Wired For Goodness?
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Avoid-Control
- Jun 9, 2020 What's Next America?
- Nov 24, 2013 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- Feb 16, 2013 Does Your Body Hijack Your Mind?
- Sep 24, 2012 Victims! Victimizers! What About Problem Solvers?
- Aug 26, 2012 Hey People-Pleaser, Time To Take A Risk!
- Mar 15, 2012 4 Proven Steps For Change
- Dec 30, 2011 Trying Hard To Stay Cool, Calm And Collected
- Oct 6, 2011 Don’t Want to Deal with It? The Price You’ll Pay May Be Too High
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Breathing
- Jun 9, 2020 What's Next America?
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Change
- Mar 27, 2018 Can A Leaky Heart Be Full Again?
- Apr 14, 2017 Failure by Self-Sabotage
- Jun 5, 2015 This Video: Cousin To The Choice-Cube Method?
- Jul 20, 2014 Want To Strengthen An Emotion And Change Your Behavior? Just Your Intention and Mental Rehearsal May Help!
- Jul 11, 2014 Stay Aware and Enjoy Life’s Little Pleasures. You Can Create a Happiness Habit.
- Nov 24, 2013 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- Oct 4, 2013 Are You A Three-Way-Mirror?
- Aug 24, 2013 Help That Hurting Child!
- May 20, 2013 Stop It You Two!
- Apr 8, 2013 You Can Retrain Your Brain To Use Your Innate Talents and Strengths...Start Today!
- Mar 25, 2013 4 Steps You Can Take Right Now To Change Your Life
- Feb 16, 2013 Does Your Body Hijack Your Mind?
- Nov 10, 2012 Your Inward Reactions And Your Subconscious Mind
- Jul 11, 2012 Four Steps You Can Take Right Now To Change Your Life
- May 6, 2012 Negative Emotions: The True Story
- Mar 15, 2012 4 Proven Steps For Change
- Jan 26, 2012 Body? Emotions? What Are They Telling Us?
- Dec 30, 2011 Trying Hard To Stay Cool, Calm And Collected
- Nov 23, 2011 Doomed To Make The Same Mistake One More Time?
- Nov 14, 2011 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- Oct 26, 2011 Switch Off the Automatic Pilot — Do Something Different!
- Sep 5, 2011 Another Kind of “Bad Boy”
- Jul 14, 2011 STUCK IN A RUT? STEP INTO THE LIGHT!
- Jul 7, 2011 I HATE YOU – I LOVE YOU: A MATTER OF FOCUS
- Mar 22, 2011 4 Things That Keep You From Changing
- May 31, 2010 We Reap What We Sow: It's A Law!
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Life
- Mar 27, 2018 Can A Leaky Heart Be Full Again?
- Apr 27, 2014 Do You Have A "Focus Problem?"
- Oct 4, 2013 Are You A Three-Way-Mirror?
- May 31, 2010 We Reap What We Sow: It's A Law!
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Body
- May 1, 2017 Oh, Oh, Time For The "Miracle Breath!"
- Jun 5, 2015 This Video: Cousin To The Choice-Cube Method?
- Feb 16, 2013 Does Your Body Hijack Your Mind?
- Jan 26, 2012 Body? Emotions? What Are They Telling Us?
- Sep 26, 2011 Oxytocin - Warm Hugs With That Guy Or Gal?
- Sep 26, 2011 Might As Well Face It, You’re Addicted to…Emotions?
- Sep 11, 2011 Are You A Slave To Your Reactions!
- Sep 5, 2011 Another Kind of “Bad Boy”
- Aug 22, 2011 The Devil I Know is Better than The Devil I Don’t Know
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Stress
- May 1, 2017 Oh, Oh, Time For The "Miracle Breath!"
- Sep 24, 2012 Victims! Victimizers! What About Problem Solvers?
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Subconscious
- May 1, 2017 Oh, Oh, Time For The "Miracle Breath!"
- Jun 3, 2016 Do You Really Have Free Will?
- Jul 20, 2013 Understanding Self-Sabotage: Thief of Personal Growth
- Nov 10, 2012 Your Inward Reactions And Your Subconscious Mind
- Dec 30, 2011 Trying Hard To Stay Cool, Calm And Collected
- Nov 23, 2011 Doomed To Make The Same Mistake One More Time?
- Aug 14, 2011 Why Did I Pick the Same Kind of “Bad Boy” One More Time?
- Jun 20, 2011 Are You Conscious Of Your Subconscious?
- Mar 22, 2011 4 Things That Keep You From Changing
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Brain
- Apr 14, 2017 Failure by Self-Sabotage
- Jun 5, 2015 This Video: Cousin To The Choice-Cube Method?
- Jul 20, 2013 Understanding Self-Sabotage: Thief of Personal Growth
- Apr 8, 2013 You Can Retrain Your Brain To Use Your Innate Talents and Strengths...Start Today!
- Nov 14, 2011 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- Oct 26, 2011 Switch Off the Automatic Pilot — Do Something Different!
- Sep 26, 2011 Might As Well Face It, You’re Addicted to…Emotions?
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Choice
- Apr 14, 2017 Failure by Self-Sabotage
- Jun 3, 2016 Do You Really Have Free Will?
- Jun 5, 2015 This Video: Cousin To The Choice-Cube Method?
- Jul 11, 2014 Stay Aware and Enjoy Life’s Little Pleasures. You Can Create a Happiness Habit.
- Oct 4, 2013 Are You A Three-Way-Mirror?
- Aug 24, 2013 Help That Hurting Child!
- Jul 20, 2013 Understanding Self-Sabotage: Thief of Personal Growth
- May 20, 2013 Stop It You Two!
- Mar 25, 2013 4 Steps You Can Take Right Now To Change Your Life
- Feb 16, 2013 Does Your Body Hijack Your Mind?
- Nov 10, 2012 Your Inward Reactions And Your Subconscious Mind
- Sep 24, 2012 Victims! Victimizers! What About Problem Solvers?
- Jul 11, 2012 Four Steps You Can Take Right Now To Change Your Life
- Mar 15, 2012 4 Proven Steps For Change
- Dec 30, 2011 Trying Hard To Stay Cool, Calm And Collected
- Oct 16, 2011 "I Refuse To Be A Victim!” - Herman Cain
- Jul 24, 2011 What's Running Your Life?
- Jul 21, 2011 Tips To Get You Out Of Feeling Stuck
- Jul 14, 2011 STUCK IN A RUT? STEP INTO THE LIGHT!
- May 31, 2010 We Reap What We Sow: It's A Law!
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Defenses
- Apr 14, 2017 Failure by Self-Sabotage
- Apr 27, 2014 Do You Have A "Focus Problem?"
- Feb 16, 2013 Does Your Body Hijack Your Mind?
- Aug 26, 2012 Hey People-Pleaser, Time To Take A Risk!
- Jun 25, 2011 2 Hidden Fears and Losing Our Balance
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Failure
- Apr 14, 2017 Failure by Self-Sabotage
- Oct 4, 2013 Are You A Three-Way-Mirror?
- Jul 20, 2013 Understanding Self-Sabotage: Thief of Personal Growth
- Apr 8, 2013 You Can Retrain Your Brain To Use Your Innate Talents and Strengths...Start Today!
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Abuse
- Jun 3, 2016 Do You Really Have Free Will?
- Jul 17, 2012 "Mommy!"
- Jun 7, 2010 Law of the Week! What?
- Focus
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Fulfillment
- Jun 3, 2016 Do You Really Have Free Will?
- Oct 4, 2013 Are You A Three-Way-Mirror?
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Habits
- Jun 3, 2016 Do You Really Have Free Will?
- Jun 5, 2015 This Video: Cousin To The Choice-Cube Method?
- Jul 20, 2014 Want To Strengthen An Emotion And Change Your Behavior? Just Your Intention and Mental Rehearsal May Help!
- Apr 27, 2014 Do You Have A "Focus Problem?"
- Mar 25, 2013 4 Steps You Can Take Right Now To Change Your Life
- Nov 10, 2012 Your Inward Reactions And Your Subconscious Mind
- Nov 23, 2011 Doomed To Make The Same Mistake One More Time?
- Nov 8, 2011 How Do You Live Your Life?
- Oct 16, 2011 "I Refuse To Be A Victim!” - Herman Cain
- Sep 26, 2011 Might As Well Face It, You’re Addicted to…Emotions?
- Aug 14, 2011 Why Did I Pick the Same Kind of “Bad Boy” One More Time?
- Jul 24, 2011 What's Running Your Life?
- Jul 14, 2011 STUCK IN A RUT? STEP INTO THE LIGHT!
- Jul 7, 2011 I HATE YOU – I LOVE YOU: A MATTER OF FOCUS
- Jun 25, 2011 2 Hidden Fears and Losing Our Balance
- Mar 22, 2011 4 Things That Keep You From Changing
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Relationships
- Jun 3, 2016 Do You Really Have Free Will?
- Jun 15, 2013 "Making It Safe:" A Choice-Cube Tool
- Aug 26, 2012 Hey People-Pleaser, Time To Take A Risk!
- Oct 16, 2011 "I Refuse To Be A Victim!” - Herman Cain
- Sep 26, 2011 Oxytocin - Warm Hugs With That Guy Or Gal?
- Sep 11, 2011 Are You A Slave To Your Reactions!
- Sep 5, 2011 Another Kind of “Bad Boy”
- Aug 14, 2011 Why Did I Pick the Same Kind of “Bad Boy” One More Time?
- Jul 7, 2011 I HATE YOU – I LOVE YOU: A MATTER OF FOCUS
- Jun 7, 2010 Law of the Week! What?
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Emotions
- Jul 20, 2014 Want To Strengthen An Emotion And Change Your Behavior? Just Your Intention and Mental Rehearsal May Help!
- Jul 11, 2014 Stay Aware and Enjoy Life’s Little Pleasures. You Can Create a Happiness Habit.
- Nov 24, 2013 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- May 20, 2013 Stop It You Two!
- May 6, 2012 Negative Emotions: The True Story
- Jan 26, 2012 Body? Emotions? What Are They Telling Us?
- Nov 23, 2011 Doomed To Make The Same Mistake One More Time?
- Nov 14, 2011 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- Nov 8, 2011 How Do You Live Your Life?
- Oct 16, 2011 "I Refuse To Be A Victim!” - Herman Cain
- Sep 26, 2011 Might As Well Face It, You’re Addicted to…Emotions?
- Sep 11, 2011 Are You A Slave To Your Reactions!
- Aug 29, 2011 Change That Attitude! And You’ll Change Your Body…
- Aug 22, 2011 The Devil I Know is Better than The Devil I Don’t Know
- Apr 27, 2011 The 8 Emotions You Would Do Well To Let Go Of Right Away
- May 2, 2010 Negative Emotions: The True Story
- Mind
- Transformation
- Health
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Stuck
- Nov 24, 2013 Get that Paper Bag Off Your Head!
- Jul 11, 2012 Four Steps You Can Take Right Now To Change Your Life
- Jul 21, 2011 Tips To Get You Out Of Feeling Stuck
- Jul 7, 2011 I HATE YOU – I LOVE YOU: A MATTER OF FOCUS
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Parenting
- Aug 24, 2013 Help That Hurting Child!
- Success
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Love
- Jun 15, 2013 "Making It Safe:" A Choice-Cube Tool
- Sep 26, 2011 Oxytocin - Warm Hugs With That Guy Or Gal?
- Sep 5, 2011 Another Kind of “Bad Boy”
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Self-Parenting
- Jun 15, 2013 "Making It Safe:" A Choice-Cube Tool
- Jul 17, 2012 "Mommy!"
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Self-Protector
- May 20, 2013 Stop It You Two!
- Jun 25, 2011 2 Hidden Fears and Losing Our Balance
- Work
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Sex
- Sep 26, 2011 Oxytocin - Warm Hugs With That Guy Or Gal?
- Aug 11, 2011 Understanding a Sex Addiction – Tiger Woods
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Addictions
- Sep 26, 2011 Might As Well Face It, You’re Addicted to…Emotions?
- Aug 11, 2011 Understanding a Sex Addiction – Tiger Woods
- Jul 24, 2011 What's Running Your Life?
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Reality
- Sep 11, 2011 Are You A Slave To Your Reactions!
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Uncategorized
- Aug 2, 2011 30 SECOND PRESENT MOMENT EXERCISE
- Jul 14, 2011 STUCK IN A RUT? STEP INTO THE LIGHT!
- Jul 6, 2011 MIND YOUR FOCUS -- FOCUS YOUR MIND
- Jun 25, 2011 2 Hidden Fears and Losing Our Balance
- Jun 24, 2011 THE BEST WAY TO BE HONEST
- Jun 15, 2011 OVERWHELM: WHY GET RID OF IT RIGHT AWAY
- May 17, 2011 11 IMPORTANT THINGS YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT EMOTIONS
- May 11, 2011 A Look Inside the Minds of a Victim and a Victimizer
- May 2, 2011 Did You Know You Are Not Alone in Your Head?
- Apr 29, 2011 The 4 Best Emotions You Can Feel… And Should Strive to Achieve
- Apr 18, 2011 Do You Know What “Double Binds” Are and How to Handle Them?
- Apr 11, 2011 11 Important Things You Must Know About Your Emotions
- Apr 8, 2011 The Most Important Question You’ll Ask Yourself: Are You in Shadow or Light?
- Apr 4, 2011 Learn This Great One Minute Body Scan Relaxation Exercise
- Mar 28, 2011 Feeling a Bit Stressed Out? 2 Great Tools to Manage Tension
- Mar 22, 2011 4 Things That Keep You From Changing
- Feb 16, 2011 Fair Fighting for Friends and Couples
- Feb 3, 2011 Staying Steady in Tough Times
- Jan 17, 2011 Stuck or Free: Your Choice!
- Dec 26, 2010 Go Down The Middle
- Dec 12, 2010 The Victim-Victimizer Swing
- Nov 26, 2010 Change and Rewire Your Brain
- Nov 15, 2010 Bottom Up - Top Down Crashes
- Oct 25, 2010 You Can't Fill A Leaky Heart
- Oct 17, 2010 Connected or Split off?
- Oct 3, 2010 Enough Lying and Dissimulating
- Sep 12, 2010 Let's Define Addictions
- Aug 15, 2010 So You Want To Make Some Changes
- Aug 5, 2010 Psychological Discomfort
- Jul 13, 2010 You Too Can Rewire Your Brain
- Jul 6, 2010 Our Journey from Shadow to Light
- Jun 14, 2010 Power to Live Longer?
- May 26, 2010 Focus Hocus-Pocus
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